Don’t get me wrong, I love being a girl, but I have to admit that there are certain qualities guys have that girls, in general, really don’t seem to possess.
First of all, let’s face it; girls are more emotional. And really, with all the shit we go through (i.e. PMS!), can you blame us?
That being said, I’ve come to realize that guys are, without a doubt, much easier to understand. We, as girls, love to play mind games. We don’t necessarily love being fake to girls whom we secretly hate; it’s just something we’re good at. It’s a skill, being two-faced, one that requires an abundance of forced smiles and phony compliments and conversations filled with faux interest.
The way I see it, if you don’t like someone, then don’t associate yourself with them. And if you have to be around them, whether it’s because you’re in the same class or team or club or sorority, or you work with them, then just be civil. No need to pretend like this person is your good friend, because, let’s face it, she’s not. She’s an annoying bitch.
Now, guys, on the other hand, are straight shooters; what you see is what you get. There’s no bullshit, no cattiness, no beating around the bush. When guys fight, they get it out, and they’re over it after an hour, if even that long. When they apologize and make up, they hug it out like bros, and that’s the end of it.
With girls, that’s rarely the case. We hold grudges, plain and simple. We’ll pretend like nothing’s happened, when in reality, the anger and resentment and jealousy are all building up and festering within us, aimed toward the girl who did something stupid and immature and rude, like talk shit about us behind our backs, thinking we’d never find out. The repercussions are always catastrophic.
So, the point of this post is to say that genuine forgiveness is one of the best attributes one can have in order to form real, long-lasting friendships. Of course, your true friends will love you and stick up for you no matter what. But, if someone does something to upset you, the best way to avoid drama is to confront them quietly about it as soon as possible. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Don’t stoop to her level by rallying up an army to try to make her life miserable because you feel like she deserves it (even if she does). Just be mature and talk it out.
And, if it’s not worth the effort, then, I reiterate, just disassociate yourself with that person, but always be cordial. Still, the best way to handle it, in my opinion, is to forgive and forget, because I guarantee you, a year, five years, ten years from now, you literally won’t remember what you were fighting about, where the root of all the drama came from. All you’ll remember is the fun times you spent with that person, and if you’re still friends with them all those years later, you’ll realize that the trivial bullshit drama was so, so stupid and not worth losing a friendship over.
(Wow, getting preachy over here, haha. I just wanted to pass along some advice based on my personal experiences. Thanks for reading. Sorry for all the swearing, by the way.)
‘Til next time,